*** No one to listen to one's problems ***
Why does it take so long for a tree to bear fruit after planting? The reason is that it needs to mature to bear fruit. Otherwise, a tree will bear fruit the very next day after planting.
Children, you are the same. Why don't you think about that? Otherwise, from the day you are born, why do each of you kneel and crawl in your parents' arms and be pampered? Why do your parents suffer and work hard to fulfill all your needs? Otherwise, you would have been married off and set free from childhood. This is not done for one reason.
Every socialized person should first receive training to do any work. You should gain good knowledge about the social environment as well as about living in that environment. Since it is the responsibility of parents to make their children fulfill that task, they should first teach them how to live in society by teaching them to say the words "mother, father, sister, brother, sister, brother." Since it is the responsibility of parents, after parents find out about their children's love affairs, they torture their children in various ways, make them uncomfortable, and subject them to mental anguish. This must be due to the ignorance of the parents. But dear parents, you should do something else.
Isn't it my beloved daughter or son who is being criticized and insulted in this way? By doing this, won't their future be dark? By banning them from classes, won't their education be delayed? They will suffer a mental breakdown, won't they? ˜
Also, teachers marginalize those children in their classes. You should think about something first before doing so.
You should think about these and other things in various ways and examine them carefully and then give such advice to your daughter or son accordingly. Then your child will undoubtedly become a citizen who is full of good qualities and shines in the entire society. This is a task that must be done practically. Go to your daughter or son and ask,
My son, what are your shortcomings? Are you not getting enough food, books, clothes, love, kindness, and compassion from us?
Then, know what the answer is from your child and take the right steps regarding your child in the right way according to that answer. But be careful not to let the attitude that your child has committed a mistake and that he is a sinner take root in his mind. The reason for this is that cutting off the branches of a young plant will stunt the growth of that plant. This theory will also affect your child in the same way. You should take the right steps to change it. It should be explained like this. And tell your children,
Son, don't do that job. If you do that job, you won't be able to study. Then those you love won't be with you. If you are a good, beautiful person or someone in a high position in society, hundreds of thousands of people will come to you for you. Therefore, son, study well and come to a good position in society as a high person. Otherwise, if you go to that job without studying, you will get addicted to your desires and you will not be able to study. Then someday, after you get married, both of you will have to live by serving others. Then you will not be called Mrs. or Mr. My son/daughter, then you will be called a farmer, a worker, etc. So why are we called by various unpleasant names when we can live this beautifully? Can't we live as a good husband or a good wife by sitting in a comfortable chair and controlling others? How much happiness and acceptance is there then? You act as if you are the one who controls your future. Then you will not be able to finish the number of beautiful girls and handsome boys who follow you. Then you can be happy. However, no matter how much wealth you get, you should act in a way that does not violate those wealth and does not go against the rules of society. How can you say that?
(I became a good doctor, lawyer, teacher, engineer, orator and a good preacher, businessman, and successful farmer. I got this kind of situation because I worked well according to a schedule. So I want to give my children the same situation. I want to live in society well) ˜
Through such conversations, you can try to direct your child on the right path. In this way, your child can express himself only if you have also fulfilled your duties properly. If not, you already know what kind of life you will have to lead. So, you should be careful to fulfill the proper duties of your age and live a good life as a good daughter or son by engaging only in tasks appropriate to your age, because the door of love is a lock on the door of learning. If that happens, you will not be able to study and will have to live alone, and after marriage, there will be a possibility of quarrels and quarrels in your home.
It's not like love, it feels like a cage
You will have to bear the pain like a big tree
We should apply its meaning to our lives as well as to our own. If not, we can understand what kind of problems we will have to face by looking at the current society. But what do you do after seeing it? And what should you do? It is necessary to ask again.
At an age when you don't know what opposite-sex love is, what kind of happiness do you do opposite-sex love to get? My son, ask yourself what love is. Then you will blame yourself. Or you will look at the faces of those around you and smile a little. Is that smile for others or for yourself? No, it is for your own stupidity. Ask yourself this.
Another problem that you will face during your study period is that there is no one to listen to and express your questions. During your life, you should have a friend who can express your sorrows and happiness and understand your thoughts. It is a great help in your life. The reason for this is that every person loses his or her ability to bear a problem when he or she has it. Then, by expressing that problem to someone else and the listener will explain the necessary solutions to solve that problem. This idea has been mentioned in the book Prabuddha written by Mahagamasekera. How is it that,
When you laugh,
the whole world laughs with you
but when you mourn,
the whole world laughs with you
(Prabbuddha: Mahagamasekera)
This fact is a true truth. Every person living in this world is accustomed to laughing only when those around him laugh. But if those around him mourn, he never tries to mourn with him or talk about his mourning. But we should also get used to it. Therefore, we should associate with a suitable friend to express the happiness and sadness that arises in our hearts. Then we will be able to free our mind from all problems. We can scold our mother or father in various ways when we see our mistake. But we should not make more such mistakes without trying to fix that mistake and live a correct life. We should not be arrogant and talk to our parents. If the father or mother does not point out the mistakes of our children, who will point them out? When our mother or father points out a mistake, we should not eat, drink, or commit suicide, but rather live a correct life free from mistakes. Likewise, there is no shame in expressing the sadness that arises in our heart to our best friend. But we should not make wrong decisions and make ourselves and others uncomfortable.
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